Content Warning: This post is about names befitting stillborns, infants with very short lives, and miscarriages.
I know this is a depressing, macabre topic no one should ever have to deal with, but fetal and neonatal deaths are an unavoidable fact of life. And as always, these names can also be used for fictional characters. I’ve used some of them for my own characters.
Though traditional Jewish Law dictates stillborns and infants who live less than 30 days shouldn’t be named or have Kaddish recited for them, I find it very meaningful to give such a child a simple but symbolic name. When I asked one of my rabbis about this, he said he’d never tell grieving parents not to say Kaddish for their dear baby, no matter what custom dictates.
Other traditions have different outlooks, and individuals of any faith or culture should make their own decisions. God forbid this should ever happen to me if I’m blessed with biological children before time runs out, but if it did, I’d opt against the name I’d previously chosen and instead use one of the following names, with the understanding this child would never be called that. A name that might seem corny or pretentious on a living child is transformed into something haunting and beautiful on one who was born asleep or barely lived.
Unless otherwise noted, all names ending in vowels are female, and all names ending in consonants are male.
Amala means “pure, clean” in Sanskrit.
Angel is rather self-explanatory.
Atropos (F) was the oldest the Three Fates, the one who cut the thread. Her Roman version was Morta.
Bedisa means “fate” in Georgian.
Blessing is self-explanatory.
Bracha means “blessing” in Hebrew. The male form is Baruch.
Clotho was one of the Three Fates, the one who spins the thread of Life. Her Roman version was Nona.
Dalisay (F) means “pure” in Tagalog.
Destiny is self-explanatory. This name has such a different image when used on a stillborn or someone who died in early infancy.
Faith is self-explanatory.
Glenda was created in the 20th century from Welsh elements glan (clean, pure) and da (good).
Heimarmene was the Greek goddess of the Fate of the Universe. The name may be derived from the verb meiresthai (to receive as one’s lot), from which the word moira (destiny, fate) also derives.
Hypnos was the Greek god of sleep, described as very kind, gentle, and calm. His Roman version was Somnus.
Inmaculada means “immaculate” in Spanish, after the Immaculate Conception. Other forms include Imaculada (Portuguese), Immaculata (Irish), Immacolata (Italian), and Immaculada (Catalan)
Innocent derives from the Latin Innocentius, ultimately from innocens (innocent). Other forms include Innocenzo (Italian), Innokentiy (Russian), Inocencio (Spanish), Innocenty (Polish), Innozenz (German), Inocentas (Lithuanian), Innocenz (German), Inocent (Croatian), and Inocenţiu (Romanian).
Female forms are Innokentiya (Russian, Bulgarian), Iñoskentze (Basque), Innocentia (Latin), Innocència (Catalan), Innocenta (Polish), Inocencia (Spanish, Portuguese), and Innocentja (Polish).
Juvenal means “youthful” in Latin, from original form Iuvenalis.
Kader (F) means “destiny, fate” in Turkish.
Kiyoshi (M) means “pure” in Japanese.
Lachesis (F) was one of the Three Fates, the one responsible for measuring the thread and determining length of life. Her Roman counterpart is Decima.
Memoria means “memory” in Italian.
Mneme means “memory” in Greek. She was one of the original Three Muses.
Mnemosyne was the Greek goddess of remembrance. Other forms include Mnemosina (Russian, Macedonian, Serbian, Tatar, Ukrainian, Azeri, Basque), Mnemosine (Italian, Portuguese), Mnémoszüné (Hungarian), Mnemozina (Bulgarian, Bosnian, Croatian), Mnemósine (Spanish, Asturian, Catalan), Mnemozino (Esperanto), Mnemasina (Belarusian), Mnēmosine (Latvian), Mnemosinė (Lithuanian), Mnemosin (Piedmontese), and Mnemosune (Afrikaans).
Neshama means “soul” in Hebrew. A diminutive form is Neshamaleh.
Oroitz means “memory” in Basque.
Peace is self-explanatory.
Pepromene was the Greek goddess of one’s individual fate. The name may derive from the verb peprosthai (to be fated, finished, fulfilled) or the noun pepratosthai (finite).
Qismat means “fate” in Arabic. This name is female in Sanskrit (Qismet) and Turkish (Kismet).
Remember, Remembrance. Though these were unisex names in Puritan times, Remember in particular has always sounded more feminine to me.
Safi (M) means “pure” in Arabic. The feminine forms are Safiya, Safiyyah (Arabic) and Safiye (Turkish).
Shalom means “peace” in Hebrew. This is a unisex name.
Syntyche means “common fate” in Greek.
Tahira means “pure, chaste, virtuous” in Arabic. In Turkish, it’s spelt Tahire. The male Arabic and Turkish form is Tahir.
Thuần means “pure, simple, clean” in Vietnamese.
Zachriel, Zechariel, Zachariel is the archangel who leads souls to judgment in Islam, Judaism, and Christianity.
Zaha means “pure, innocent, fresh, clean, clear” in Hebrew.
Zakiyya, Zakiya, Zakiah means “pure” in Arabic. The male form is Zaki. In Tatar and Bashkir, it’s spelt Zäki. The Hebrew form is Zakkai, Zakai, Zakay.